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Who are you submitting to


First I have to say I am not an expert on BDSM and do not live the BDSM lifestyle fulltime and haven’t in almost 10yrs when I was a sub to my Daddy. This wasn’t really like a 50 shades of grey experience I don’t feel truly Im not sure…. I didn’t see the movie only the spoof with Marlon Wayans in it. Hilarious! Well my story was I was a weak little girl that needed Daddy to take care of her. Daddy took good care of me and I performed his every sexual sensual desire. This was a process that worked for me bonded collared where I knew I was safe and never would be deserted. A feeling of security with an expansion of sexual sensual education. The cleanest way I can describe it if we are wanting to be clean. Lol

So this leads me into a few reasons that people desire a BDSM sub relationship.

1 a feeling of needing security

2 a need to feel like someone else is in charge because of a demanding dominant job…manager CEO etc.

3. And just the good old fashion love of pain and restraint. (Desire to be disciplined)

Me I I think when Im involved in a submissive experience its all 3 of these on any given day. Also, a dominant sub relationship can be unhealthy when people are living in a victim victimizing place. This usually won’t last forever mental, emotional and or physical abuse eventually transforms with it without universal consent. It lasts just as long as a couple is stuck in the growth process pain and strain leads to growth usually if not it leads to trauma. This being said BDSM is a healing energy well in my eyes anyway. So who are you open to submitting to?

Don’t forget to enter the BDSM contest to win the prize pack. Sexy is empowering and doing it together is growth talk to you soon.

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Tantric Relationships

I recently spoke briefly on the pain and drama I endured in past relationships and how I worked towards healing myself. Now I know the reason I went through what I went through because of 1st the capability to be able to come out of each situation and still continue to spread positive energy with a story to tell. The Divine doesn’t put anything on you can’t carry and conquer! Another reason was because what I had to offer each person I was with. I was doing tantra even in the years I knew nothing of tantra…now of course looking at my previous posts I did not know how to stay strong and flourish in those situations which caused difficult times for me, but I was doing spiritual work all the same. I enjoy laughing, chatting, dancing, politicn and motivating people it feels wonderful. I probably should have been an actress long time ago at least in theater that is. Haha nah…. Let’s go a little deeper into this…So who ever I was with man, woman or just close friends I offered this tantra that would vibrate the moment and we would dance spiritually for as long as the Divine saw fit. The relationship would go on to the point where there wasn’t an open door for change. Where either me or the other person couldn’t or wouldn’t evolve any further. At this point then it was time to move on. Evolution does cause some discomfort sometimes even pain so of course most people don’t like that ish lol So if what I showed or how I pushed wasn’t understood or accepted they would become upset with me and that would cause arguments. Some also would become distant and not just distant to pounder and return but distant in a way that I would be pushed away. Now of course you know these reactions don’t work well for happy relationships. So eventually we started to dislike one another and then what we built comes tumbling down.

OK Ok just so you don’t think I was this O so conscious guru haha I was not it’s just something that just happens I push people’s limits as well as motivate them and in the mean time give them sweet delicious intimacy(not always sexual by the way so get your head out of the clouds lol). Now of course relationships are a two way street in evolution so I was getting class time too sometimes my teachers were real sweet and sometimes they were treacherous either way it went I had something to learn too. Some I learned a lot from right then and some not till years later. All this to say every single one of us are tantra teachers by nature just because truth is every relationship is for our spiritual growth. …now the question is are we going to get the lessons or not, but that’s a whole nutter story.

OK  so before I close this blog out let’s talk about tantra a bit which I altered the term to best fit me my her story and the work I do. I now call it sensual awakening sensual – not just related to sexual activity but has to do with your 6+ senses the five that we all know so well; 

•sight (using our ocular vision) 





And then there is our 6 sense being able to go beyond just the basic senses and “feel” instead of just touch… “view” instead of just see and so on. So sensual awakening to me is using these senses for you and others evolution…and becoming aware of the process so you can practice intentionally to help others. This is me elaborating on my connections with people and of course it wasn’t just “danger danger will robinson” No not at all it was growth.Hey had so much fun sharing today if you have something you have been through man O man I probably have too. Lol so please drop me a line and I will tell my story. 

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Love Bank Account

Deposit into your Love bank account….

When you love yourself truly love yourself before you get into a relationship with someone else you have so much more to give without giving away what you need to survive. When you are depleted in your spiritual love bank account it shows…you give away until you are depleted and can barely hold on even with life support from the universe. In this spiritual love dehydration you may give away your last in financial resources, emotional resources and even your health resources. No wonder a person starts to fade…fading financially credit bad, bank account at $0, living on the streets if it gets that bad. Giving away your reserves emotionally leads to problems with health causes fatigue, sickness, ailments and hopefully not but also chronic ailments (infertility, miscarriages, uterus issues etc).

So ok we are wanting to bypass all that yes? of course we are. Me you and others have been through enough of these situations so those that haven’t don’t have to right?

It’s all about cleansing those blockages….learning to love yourself and be true to that spiritual love and build back up your spiritual love bank account.

I’ve been there as well multiple times in my life…

I remember one situation where I had just came out of a very toxic relationship and was feeling so empty inside. I had lost everything or better yet I had given up everything and just had gotten back to the point where I was working a good job again had a nice car and lived in an cool ass apartment, but of course I wanted to feel more. I needed that feeling of what I thought was love. Just a feeling of attention, intimacy companionship or something along those lines. So instead of learning to fill up my emotional bank account myself I jumped in with the first dude that had my oooo weee jumping. Now of course this is still a rebound it doesn’t matter how long it had been since my last connection I hadn’t healed my wounds yet. I  wont totally go into the actual details of the relationship here and now but just a little insight into it..

I had to prove my affection even though I was so sure I wore my affection on my sleeve. Who does that proving my love Booo right? So I feel so I do not have to go through this crap anymore and other women don’t either its time for a change…and Now how do we do that you ask because it’s like hey I’ve tried everything lol yeah me too. What you do is you keep working at it because it’s not a 0-100 real quick it’s a progress a never giving up progress…ok yeah we may stop and start and stop and start but slow progress is better than no progress. Something I heard from a wise gentleman slow $ is better than no $…and we all know that’s real! So if you or your girlfriend are going thru a health issue, relationship issue or even a financial issue pass this on because hey its all about paying it forward and the bigger the team the more expansive the healing.

Love ya Much!