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Tantric Relationships

I recently spoke briefly on the pain and drama I endured in past relationships and how I worked towards healing myself. Now I know the reason I went through what I went through because of 1st the capability to be able to come out of each situation and still continue to spread positive energy with a story to tell. The Divine doesn’t put anything on you can’t carry and conquer! Another reason was because what I had to offer each person I was with. I was doing tantra even in the years I knew nothing of tantra…now of course looking at my previous posts I did not know how to stay strong and flourish in those situations which caused difficult times for me, but I was doing spiritual work all the same. I enjoy laughing, chatting, dancing, politicn and motivating people it feels wonderful. I probably should have been an actress long time ago at least in theater that is. Haha nah…. Let’s go a little deeper into this…So who ever I was with man, woman or just close friends I offered this tantra that would vibrate the moment and we would dance spiritually for as long as the Divine saw fit. The relationship would go on to the point where there wasn’t an open door for change. Where either me or the other person couldn’t or wouldn’t evolve any further. At this point then it was time to move on. Evolution does cause some discomfort sometimes even pain so of course most people don’t like that ish lol So if what I showed or how I pushed wasn’t understood or accepted they would become upset with me and that would cause arguments. Some also would become distant and not just distant to pounder and return but distant in a way that I would be pushed away. Now of course you know these reactions don’t work well for happy relationships. So eventually we started to dislike one another and then what we built comes tumbling down.

OK Ok just so you don’t think I was this O so conscious guru haha I was not it’s just something that just happens I push people’s limits as well as motivate them and in the mean time give them sweet delicious intimacy(not always sexual by the way so get your head out of the clouds lol). Now of course relationships are a two way street in evolution so I was getting class time too sometimes my teachers were real sweet and sometimes they were treacherous either way it went I had something to learn too. Some I learned a lot from right then and some not till years later. All this to say every single one of us are tantra teachers by nature just because truth is every relationship is for our spiritual growth. …now the question is are we going to get the lessons or not, but that’s a whole nutter story.

OK  so before I close this blog out let’s talk about tantra a bit which I altered the term to best fit me my her story and the work I do. I now call it sensual awakening sensual – not just related to sexual activity but has to do with your 6+ senses the five that we all know so well; 

•sight (using our ocular vision) 





And then there is our 6 sense being able to go beyond just the basic senses and “feel” instead of just touch… “view” instead of just see and so on. So sensual awakening to me is using these senses for you and others evolution…and becoming aware of the process so you can practice intentionally to help others. This is me elaborating on my connections with people and of course it wasn’t just “danger danger will robinson” No not at all it was growth.Hey had so much fun sharing today if you have something you have been through man O man I probably have too. Lol so please drop me a line and I will tell my story. 

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Love Bank Account

Deposit into your Love bank account….

When you love yourself truly love yourself before you get into a relationship with someone else you have so much more to give without giving away what you need to survive. When you are depleted in your spiritual love bank account it shows…you give away until you are depleted and can barely hold on even with life support from the universe. In this spiritual love dehydration you may give away your last in financial resources, emotional resources and even your health resources. No wonder a person starts to fade…fading financially credit bad, bank account at $0, living on the streets if it gets that bad. Giving away your reserves emotionally leads to problems with health causes fatigue, sickness, ailments and hopefully not but also chronic ailments (infertility, miscarriages, uterus issues etc).

So ok we are wanting to bypass all that yes? of course we are. Me you and others have been through enough of these situations so those that haven’t don’t have to right?

It’s all about cleansing those blockages….learning to love yourself and be true to that spiritual love and build back up your spiritual love bank account.

I’ve been there as well multiple times in my life…

I remember one situation where I had just came out of a very toxic relationship and was feeling so empty inside. I had lost everything or better yet I had given up everything and just had gotten back to the point where I was working a good job again had a nice car and lived in an cool ass apartment, but of course I wanted to feel more. I needed that feeling of what I thought was love. Just a feeling of attention, intimacy companionship or something along those lines. So instead of learning to fill up my emotional bank account myself I jumped in with the first dude that had my oooo weee jumping. Now of course this is still a rebound it doesn’t matter how long it had been since my last connection I hadn’t healed my wounds yet. I  wont totally go into the actual details of the relationship here and now but just a little insight into it..

I had to prove my affection even though I was so sure I wore my affection on my sleeve. Who does that proving my love Booo right? So I feel so I do not have to go through this crap anymore and other women don’t either its time for a change…and Now how do we do that you ask because it’s like hey I’ve tried everything lol yeah me too. What you do is you keep working at it because it’s not a 0-100 real quick it’s a progress a never giving up progress…ok yeah we may stop and start and stop and start but slow progress is better than no progress. Something I heard from a wise gentleman slow $ is better than no $…and we all know that’s real! So if you or your girlfriend are going thru a health issue, relationship issue or even a financial issue pass this on because hey its all about paying it forward and the bigger the team the more expansive the healing.

Love ya Much!

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Kegel Egg How to

Used for yoni/vagina health & fitness stronger muscles, to help get in shape before birth, to control incontinence and for an easier more controlled delivery.  As well as to get back in shape after birth again to create more control of your muscles.

Can help prevention of the uterus dropping added also with controlled breathing and yin visualization.

Oh and last but definitely not least to maximize orgasmic pleasure for you and your honey.

Egg Sizes

Large, medium, small


if never used egg before start off with large egg to start getting a feel for your muscles. I suggest this even if you have done kegels before. This is to get use to disciplining your muscles and egg. 

Has been sexually active and/or has had a baby.


Use medium egg if you have used yoni/kegel eggs/balls before and exercise your muscles, and just not yet ready to move to small egg.


Use small egg if yoni isn’t as wet due to menopause, diet, or some other ailment. If have never had sex or used a menstrual cup or tampon. 

Move to next size egg once one has mastered discipline over egg using birthing exercise and squat push pull workout.


Place in boiling water before 1st use..and any time after that for a thoroughly clean in between times soap and water or adult toy cleaner and soap and water. And air dry or non lint towel… I prefer air dry myself.

if egg did not come with its own string then use no waxed floss.


Lay on back legs bent and spread, legs spread squatting position or legs spread sitting.

Insert large end at lips of yoni/vagina…

Take a deep breath in and release 123 push egg into yoni opening ... repeat the breath and every exhale insert egg/ball until past middle section of yoni, and you are comfortable with a feeling of security of eggs stability.

Egg can be worn during daily activities and while sleeping. Until you have more discipline over egg be aware can possibly come out during a large cough sneeze or while using the bathroom.

Egg will not get lost inside the yoni for your feeling of security if necessary use cord that came with egg or nonwaxed floss to remove.

If you would like to aquire yoni/kegel eggs or balls, schedule a vagifit session or enroll in the yinwarrior empowerment program please visit my store, Contact me on IG @1veggieaphrodite, or email me at

Peace, Love & Joy